Health Care Debate is No Debate When It Hits Home

With the Supreme Court decision due this week on "ObamaCare" everyone has an opinion as to whether the law will stand, be modified, gutted or overturned. And because it's a presidential election year it's a hot button. My goal here is not to enter the argument, because nothing that I say will change anyone's mind one way or another. And I have no desire to do thst. You'll have your own opinion, just like I have mine.

I simply wish to relay a recent anecdotal personal experience which convinces me that provisions of the law are working for my family in a way that we could not have foreseen just a week ago. The story involves my son, a young man of 25 who, like many young people today, is gainfully, but under employed in a retail job while working toward his dream of becoming a recording/film industry sound engineer. That career involves specialized training that is very time consuming and expensive, but it's where he wants to be in his life in five years. Of course we support that goal and have done what we can as parents to see that he reaches his goal.

He's been laid off from time to time in this economic environment and we have had no problem with him moving back home as he saves for the education that he will need. Because of the new law we were able to extend our own healthcare coverage to include him to age 26, even through he is no longer a dependent. We never thought that he would need that insurance because he's healthy and young - until last week.

We noticed a swelling under his right temple about three weeks ago that became pronounced and appeared to involve his eye. We urged him to have this checked out at Urgent Care, which he did last Thursday night after work. He was hospitalized immediately because of high blood pressure, which he never knew he had, and the alarming appearance of this swelling. MRI and CT Scan imaging revealed a tumor which is very likely a sarcoma of some type under the temporalis muscle and involving his skull. To date we are awaiting a pathology report based upon a biopsy to determine the next steps, which obviously must involve surgical removal of the mass and follow-up treatments for the surgery and hypertension.

My point in relating this story is that my son was not under any healthcare coverage because he could not afford it - until "ObamaCare" enabled us to include him on our policy. That extension is valid until he turns 26 in October. The cost of this current hospitalization, and required surgery will be well over $100K by the time he is restored to full health. Since our state has changed its laws on public health care, he would have been either denied any medical services or placed into a debt situation that would have changed forever his career plans.

People can say what they want, but our family is grateful that the law allowed us to do what we could to help. People are often against things politically until it impacts them or their families positively or negatively. I am certainly not one who likes the ideas of mandates, more taxes, or government regulations, but some things are just too important to ignore and leave to the status quo. If you are in a position to write $100,000 health checks at a pop like some politicians are that's great. We are not in that tax bracket.

***Update***

So the Affordable Care Act is now the law of the land. Let the spin on both sides of the issue begin, and my are they spinning! After a time all of this becomes white noise to me because the talking heads have their talking points, few of which have anything to do with the real world and what affects me and my family.

What I know is that we have already benefited from provisions of ACA and at least for the next few months will continue to do so, until our son turns age 26 in October. Until then he is covered under our insurance and will have his medical situation handled under that policy. As a side-note he has been diagnosed with a form of Valley Fever; we are extremely relieved that this lesion is now considered an inflammation and not a tumor. Any damage caused by the inflammation will heal with the administration of the proper medication.

There are some six million young people, college students to young working adults, who are positively impacted by this provision. I won't argue the "tax" implications of this law because the politicians will do that. We will always be taxed in this country. That's the price of freedom. If taxes were levied fairly we wouldn't be having these arguments. And as far as big government is concerned we all complain about it - until we truly need big government.

The Loss of the Art of Dialogue

We have lost the ability to communicate with one another in public and private in a meaningful way. We don’t really talk to one another much at all anymore – we talk at each other, often in the non-verbal, cryptic digital-speak of cell phones, tablets and small personal laptops used in social media.

Such practice seems to have allowed us to speak in deprecating terms of other people (‘dissing”) as easily as blowing one’s nose – because it is all so impersonal. Labels such as “bitch, ‘hoe’” and other distasteful and profane epitaphs, once heard only in a rare heated argument now are common place and have entered everyday vernacular.

It goes without saying that civility in our politics has lost its way too. Our political discourse is now marked by a scorched earth, winner-take-all mentality. We can no longer disagree without disrespecting or even destroying divergent thought. Just this week the president was in the Rose Garden announcing a major policy change on immigration. He had barely begun to make his statement when a reporter rudely interrupted him, evidently intent on preventing the president from finishing his remarks.

Whether you agree with Mr. Obama’s politics or not is not the point. The reporter had an obligation, based on common courtesy, to let the president finish his statement before getting his hand up for questions from the press pool. And that is only if the president was willing to take questions. Recall also the State of the Union address when the president was heckled by Rep. Joe Wilson. There is no excuse for this behavior, yet it is rampant in common culture, and thus it is permitted.

Obligation, I say? Absolutely; civil people listen to what others say first, and when appropriate or invited they respond. This is called interpersonal dialogue. My contention is the digital age takes away this dimension. Social media promotes talking at people and cultural-political topics but it never permits the in-depth emotional tie-in that an old fashioned personal conversation holds. We text people as much as we actually call them, and this is lamentable situation.

Civility and expressions of courtesy work hand in hand. How often have you heard the response “no problem” (NP in text-speak) to your “thank you” in stores and restaurants. What happened to “you are welcome?” You were not intentionally making a “problem” for the employee by patronizing the business. You were expressing appreciation for good service. “No problem” is irrelevant and does not communicate a proper response, yet I hear it all the time.

This might seem a specious argument to some but it does bother me. I fear that we are also being increasingly non-verbal in our personal lives. The saddest scenario that I can think of is an image of two people sitting on a sofa next to each other texting one another. It seems ludicrous to think of something like that but it happens all the time. It’s no wonder why relationships founder so frequently – we just don’t take the time out to talk to each other anymore, and when we do it’s often ugly, rude and impersonal. What do you think?

It's Summer Time - Let's Barbecue!!

Yep, it's that time of year when most people think of cookouts and barbecue. I saw a statistic recently that 71% of all households have some type of grill to prepare barbecue, and half of those use their grills all year long. We don't do it as much, but then we have been working hard at cutting down on our meat consumption anyway. Still, 'tis the season, so here I re-post my most favorite sauce of all - Mutha Sauce. It beats that stuff in the glass (or plastic) jars everyday, and twice on Sunday!

"Mutha" Sauce

This sauce requires a lot of ingredients and can be served chunky style or you can puree it and make it smooth should you desire, but it just might be the only BBQ sauce that you will use this summer! It will make about six or seven cups. It is rich! You can reduce or eliminate the oil if you are looking to reduce your fat intake (I usually cut the oil back to a tablespoon).

1/4 cup vegetable oil
1 cup minced onion
1/2 cup minced green pepper
1 jalapeno pepper, seeded and minced
pinch kosher salt
2 tbsp minced garlic
1 can (28 oz.) tomato sauce
2 cups ketchup
1 cup water
3/4 cup worcestershire sauce
1/2 cup cider vinegar
1/4 cup fresh lemon juice
1/4 cup molasses
1/4 cup cayenne pepper or Tabasco sauce
1/4 cup spicy brown mustard
3/4 cup dark brown sugar
1 tbsp chili powder
2 tsp coarsely ground black pepper
1/2 tsp ground allspice
1 tbsp Liquid Smoke

In a large saucepan, pour in the oil. Set over medium high heat. Toss in the onions, green peppers and jalapeno and give them a stir. Season with a pinch of salt and cook until soft, but do not burn. Add the garlic and cook one minute.

Add the rest of the ingredients EXCEPT the Liquid Smoke. Bring to a boil, then lower heat so the sauce simmers. Simmer for 10 minutes. Swirl in the Liquid Smoke and let the sauce cool. It will be chunky at this point. If you desire a smooth sauce, run the sauce in batches through a blender. Pour into glass Mason jars or other glass container and cover tightly. Store in the refrigerator until ready to use. Makes 6-7 cups of excellent sauce. It also makes great gifts and will keep for weeks!

Chicken Chili!

We love those supermarket rotisserie chickens; so much flavor and so many uses for the meat. But sometimes when we buy one and strip off the chicken from the bone we find that there is just too much chicken for one or two dishes. It’s great for soups, salads casseroles and the like, and still there is leftover meat. What to do with it?

We had that situation this week and came with a quick chicken chili that turned out awesome – flavorful, spicy, filling, yet not very heavy in terms of oil. It’s simple and tasty. Here’s what we did:

Chicken Chili

2-3 cups roasted chicken, stripped from the bone and cut into bite-sized pieces (chicken skin discarded)
1 tbsp. olive oil
½ cup diced yellow onions
1 cup green bell pepper, diced
2 jalapeno peppers
3 cloves garlic, minced
Sprig of cilantro, chopped
2 cups chicken stock (or 2 bouillon cubes dissolved in water)
1-14 oz. can of tomato sauce
2-14 oz. cans of white beans, drained
1 cup white wine
2 tbsp. chili powder
1 tbsp cumin
1 tsp. salt (if using bouillon, cut this to ½ tsp.
1/2 tsp. black pepper
1 tsp. sugar
Sour cream

Directions

Heat the oil in a large pot over medium heat and toss in all of the chopped vegetables except the garlic and cilantro. Sauté until the onions are clear, then add the garlic and cook another minute. Pour in the diced chicken and mix gently, so as not to shred the already cooked chicken.

When the chicken is heated through (about 3 – 4 minutes) add all of the wet ingredients, stirring to incorporate. Next, season with the dry ingredients and continue stirring, testing for salt and spice level. Reduce heat, cover and simmer for 30 minutes. Finish with the chopped cilantro and serve in a bowl with a tortilla chip and a dollop of sour cream!

Oh and just to be a little naughty we served this with cheddar biscuits! That recipe is on this blog.